Monday, July 21, 2014

K you did it again

All in all I have a pretty typical little girl. She's into princesses, went through a "I only want to wear dresses" phase, she loves getting her hair and nails done, again, pretty typical girl.

But she has these moments where I'm like "HELL YEA LITTLE GIRL"!

See I'm a preppy tomboy. I ran through the woods with my brother and his friends, while wearing my high heels. I changed my breaks in college with pink tools, while wearing pearls. I get it done. I want that for my little girl. I don't coddle her, I tell her to shake it off and toughen up. I kiss her boo boos, but also tell her to get over something. I want her to be her own, tough, person.

Well, until recently, do you know what her favorite color was? Not pink, not purple, it was Orange! Right? Do you know how hard it is to find little girls clothes in ORANGE? Like ONLY orange? Now she's into rainbow, SOOO much easier.

In 5 months she's going to have her 5th birthday party. We've gone through various themes since literally the day after her 4th birthday. My Little Pony, Rainbow Party, and various combinations of equally girly things. Right now, and for the last few weeks though, it's been Pirate. Why? I don't know. We don't watch Jake and the Neverland Pirates or anything Pirate related. She hasn't had a friend to have a Pirate party recently (like 2  years ago they did)... so I'm not sure where this is coming from but honestly, I think it's awesome! It's so not typical for a little girl and I hope she sticks with it.

Kinsley I hope you are always okay with being different. You are your own person and don't let anyone else ever tell you that you need to change!
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Tuesday, July 15, 2014

BE ready babies, this post is going to get me a lot of flak

Your Momma is a hardcore republican. Like as in to just say I have conservative views is like saying Miss Piggy thinks Kermit is pretty cool. Understatement.

I want you to know this about your Momma because it shapes a lot of who I am and what I believe. Here's the beliefs that make me part of who I am.

1. I do NOT support abortion. I do not think birth control is abortion, but I do think the morning after pill is borderline. I understand people wanting an abortion in case of rape and incest BUT I feel God allowed for a baby to be made in that situation for a reason... we should find out what that reason is rather then kill it. I think too many people use abortion as a "solution" to their problems. I've heard people say "I could never give my baby away", yet they can kill it? I have known so many family that have been blessed by adoption that I can't even begin to understand why a mother would rather abort her child then give it a chance in a loving home... I believe from the second those clusters of cells allows a pregnancy stick to read pregnant it's a baby. Whether it can survive on its own out side of the womb or not, it's a baby. I've had the privilege of seeing y'alls ultrasounds from the beginning and yes, at 8 weeks you looked like jelly beans, but shortly after (because i had MANY with Kinsley) you had arms and fingers and noses... but you ALWAYS had a heart beat! While we were lucky enough to plan for y'all (because it's not that hard to use birth control) it wouldn't have mattered.

2. I believe we have the right to bear arms. IF you're trained, IF you get a licence and register your gun. Your Daddy has guns. He's responsible about them. They are in a safe. He's been trained on how to use one, as have I. Your Pop Pop has taken me to the shooting range and taught me about how powerful guns are and how they should be respected. Taking guns away from responsible users isn't going to take them out of the hands of criminals, news flash, Criminals get them illegally.

3. We need to shutdown our boarders. Would it be great for everyone to live in the land of the free? SURE, is it practical? NO. Sorry, we can't let everyone in and we can't support everyone that's here already. The influx of people is ridiculous right now and it is taking away precious tax dollars from schools and the children that are already here and starving. We need to take care of who is here and not let everyone else in.

4. That being said, we are a super power, so if we see wrong in the world (hello World War II, Syria, Iran, etc) then we need to help those that can't help themselves.

5. I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. Now here's where it gets tricky for me. Religiously I believe marriage is between a man and a women. In the bible it states this. I would never be a member of church that married same sex couples. BUT I also believe in the separation of church and state. And while I don't want the state coming into my church and telling me what of the bible I'm allowed to believe, and I don't want other peoples religions influencing my laws (example Islamic law), I don't know if I think my religion can tell the state to not marry same sex couples. I am conflicted babies. I want to stand with my religion, but I lean that the state should be allowed to marry them. Still praying about that one...

6. I believe the federal government has too much power and more should be given back to the states and the people. I'm so tired of people expecting the government to swoop in and fix everything for them. Fix it yourself. If you can't and need help then there should be limits to that help and stipulations. LIKE drug testing. If I have to have a drug test to get a job, others should have to have a drug test to get free money and food from the government. If you want to collect unemployment then you better show me you're looking for a job and know there's a limit on how long you can collect it. Accountability and limits. How about instead of GIVING everyone welfare and food stamps we teach them how to get off of it?

7. I believe in free enterprise. Economic growth and innovations have made our country great, the thought of the self made man is what makes our country great. The fact that you can come from nothing and become something is what makes our country great... not Government interference.

8. I believe in a balanced budget, not raising the debit ceiling. If that means programs and earmarks get cut then so be it, we don't have the money so STOP SPENDING IT! 17 trillion + is enough!

9. I believe in a strong military. I think we should be ready. It's been proven time and time again that the US has many enemies in the world and I think we need to be ready to protect ourselves. When we scale back is when we are most vulnerable. Are we in a time of peace with nothing to do? Send the troops to our boarders, they always need help!

I could keep going  but that's just a brief explanation of my core beliefs. I want you to know how your Momma stands and that I'm proud of  my stance. I've taken the time to educate myself. I read, I listen, I stay informed. I don't let the media shape my beliefs and values, especially since MOST of the media is VERY liberal and only gives you their biased views. I pray when I don't know what to think, and I'm willing to say when I think I was wrong about an issue and change my mind/views.

That's the most important. Be willing to change and pray for answers. Whether you end up believing what I believe or not, that's up to you. I'm going to love you no matter what, just be educated and  be able to back up your beliefs with facts and you'll be okay!
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Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Just a few things baby girl

Here's a few things I want you to know baby girl... there will be many more tips and and tricks but here's a few

1. Know who you are before you get caught up in some guy. You don't need the cool guy to like you or validate who you are, You are amazing being you.

2. Love God and find a man that loves him fiercely too! If you find a Godly man, you will be loved and cherished.

3. NEVER stop trying to learn. Right now you are a little sponge and you LOVE to learn, don't stop! Don't let anyone ever tell you that you can't, or that's for boys, or little girls are supposed to be pretty, NO YOU LEARN, you do, you tell them WATCH ME!

4. Do what you want. If that's cutting hair or designing buildings or working on cars, do what you LOVE!

5. Do it all in pearls. There's nothing wrong with being girly and breaking those stereotypes. Your Momma changed her own breaks in pearls with pink tools when a whole frat of guys couldn't help her!

6. Cook your heart out. Cook for you, for your family, for your neighbors. It's a door opener, conversation starter, and something that will say something when there's nothing to say.

7. Exercise and never stop. I've bounced back and forth and it's ALWAYS hard to start back. Find something you like doing and do it.

8. Dance like there's no one watching, even when they are watching. Be silly and have fun. The rest of the world doesn't matter.

9. One day a boy will break your heart. Cry big huge ugly tears, eat some ice cream, sleep it off and then grab your friends and go out and dance. HIS LOSS! He's not worth dwelling over. Trust me!

10. If you feel like you can't talk to me or daddy or we aren't here, find someone who is a christian and talk to them about your troubles or concerns. Don't trust your school friends or TV or even some adults. Trust God, you don't have to be perfect, and you won't be and that's fine! But don't lower your standards to fit in.

11. Drop everything for your family. Does your family need help moving? Throwing a party? Painting a room? HELP THEM. They will help you and they are the ones that will stick by you always. (Your in-laws are family too!)

11. Don't ever forget how much I love you! I love how you always challenge me, you're SO smart. I love all your silly faces and how you can always find a way to make me laugh. I love how you never forget anything and hold  me accountable! I think you are the most beautiful and special little girl on this earth and DON'T forget that!
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Tuesday, July 8, 2014

What I want my kids to know...

So nothing is happening to me that I know of, i just have a very morbid outlook on life where I'm perpetually scared that Chris and I are going to die and someone else is going to have to raise my children and they are not going to instill in them the values and lessons that I want in them... So since I've been OH SO AMAZING at blogging (just haven't felt the urge) I'm going to turn this into a blog about what I want my children to know from me. Some of it will be serious, some of it will be comical I'm sure. Some of it will offend you (hint, you're not who I want teaching my children) and some of it you might agree with (want to meet for a glass of wine?). So without further ado here's some things I want my son to know

1. ALWAYS be a gentleman, unless that girl is a skank. I expect you to open doors and pay for meals and hold her hand. I want you to guide her with your hand on the small of her back, get a little jealous and protective over her (not possessive) and stand up for her, even to me. UNLESS she's a skanky little know it all who doesn't appreciate you. If she is let me handle her!

2. Bring a girl something to show her you were thinking of her. Flowers are nice... but predictable. Give her flowers but also give her cupcakes, jewelry, her favorite candy that you saw and had to get her because it made you think of her!

3. PLAN THE DATES! Even when you're married surprise her with a date that you planned, that means booking the childcare too! Especially do this when she's been bitchy, this means she needs a break, give it to her!

4. Put your faith and heart and whole being in God. BE a Godly man, LEAD your family, Raise them in church and let them see you heading it up! GO to mens bible study, bring your children to worship with you. Let your kids SEE you serving God.

5. Work hard. If you work hard at what you chose to do then you will succeed. No one is going to GIVE you anything, NO one SHOULD just give you anything? No one owes you anything. WORK FOR IT. Your Daddy has worked his butt off and because of him we have a beautiful house and food on our table. But also like your Daddy, be present when you're home. You kids need you too, not just your money.

6. When you have kids HELP with them. Even if they call for Momma (it's just programmed into them) get in there and bathe them, soothe them, walk them around at 3 in the morning shushing them back to sleep. Discipline them!

7. Stand up for what you believe in, even if it's not politically correct. Many people will make you feel like you are a horrible person if you don't agree with the masses, well you're NOT. Follow the bible as a guide if you have questions about whether you're right or not, don't follow others.

8. Don't get all pierced and tattooed up. I get it, sounds like fun, but is that big ass sun on your arm or shoulder going to look super cool when you're 80 and saggy? Is that big metal gauge in your ear going to look cool when it won't close when we're 60 and so now you have droopy slashed open earlobes? The chicks dig it now but.... really? Think long and hard about it. Your Daddy is 31 as I type this and hasn't gotten a tattoo because he can't think of anything that he would be happy to have when we're dancing in our 80s... (oh yeah me too... i did get my belly button pierced... yeah droopy...)

9. Learn how to be handy and don't be afraid to DIY. It's fun to build, fix, etc. You wife will count on that.

10. Hunt, Fish, play sports, AND learn to at least appreciate, if not love, the arts. Want to be big time CEO in something? Well get yourself cultured! That means the arts. You don't have to BE artistic to appreciate them.

11. Know more than anything that your Momma loves you. I love your sweet little arms wrapping around me, you asking me to "hold my hand" for the entire 7 hour drive to your Pop Pop and Sasha's house, I love you throwing a ball at my nose and catching me unawares. I LOVE YOU! Remember that. NO matter what, know that you will always have that. If i get taken from you (which I will not allow to happen because I need to screen all future wives) know that I love you and I know you will be an amazing man. Don't dwell on your heart aches, learn from them! Just jump into the next thing with a full and open heart! Make me proud little man because I will always be watching!


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Tuesday, June 17, 2014

Had to save this one...

I know I've been missing but I had to save this one story for posterity's sake.

It was shaping up to be a lovely afternoon. The day before my mother-in-law had come over and helped to watch the kids while Chris and I prepared the new house for an array of visitors the next day. We were having over our church joining class and a few pastors to boot!

Sunday came and it was looking beautiful! Everyone started showing up and BOY were we going to have a full house! All in all about 20+ people! 3 of those families were pastors!

Now during this time in our lives we're also potty training our two  year old son. Often times we're outside with him and he needs to go to the restroom, but we live in the country and he IS a boy, so we tell him just drop drawers and go. You see where this is going, or SO YOU THINK!

Well everyone is out on the back deck enjoying the lovely weather we were having, when low and behold Parker needs to potty, so what does he do? Drops drawers. Not a big deal you say, he's a cute little boy just peeing... until you realize that No, No he's not JUST peeing... he's also decided to stick his little bum out and poop too. IN.Front of. EVERYONE.

We explain to Parker that we DO NOT poop outside, we can pee outside IF Mommy and Daddy say it's okay, but that's IT!

So what does my very sweet boy do? He decides to drop another deuce ON the deck stairs.

Oye, this one is going to be a handful!
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Monday, April 14, 2014

Apparently being in your 30s means something...

So I don't know if it's just the path in life we've taken or the actual age but, my 30s are feeling older for me than I thought they would. At first, because I was surrounded by my friends who are all in their 30s-40s and in similar lifestyles, it didn't seem like a big deal. Age has never really played a factor for me. But recently, it's seems to be a line in the sand. I was almost made to feel like a cougar... seriously?!?!

It could be that Chris and I just did things a lot earlier than most do these days. We started serious careers right out of college. We were married RIGHT after we turned 24. We bought a house 6 months before we got married. We had our first child right after we turned 27. The second child around 29. These days that's all really early.

At a wedding this weekend I told some people I'm in my 30s (31... like WHOA) and I received bug eyes. Over the hill right? HA

I know there's the whole 40 is the new 30 and 50 is the new 40, so what is 30? Because I'll tell you, this weekend I was NOT 20! I might as well have been put at the Grandparents table. Kidding! Sort of.

I always love looking back on these dynamics. Chris and I did things early (not quickly) because we wanted to be able to enjoy our kids and our lives after kids while still being relatively young. Think about it, when Kinsley is entering college we'll be 45! That's freaking AWESOME! I'm SOO going to be able to hang at a tailgate! HA

But being surrounded by 20 somethings talking about "when they are 30" like it's a huge life changing number, makes me laugh. To be flirted with by some 20 something only to see his eyes bug out of his head at the mention of my age (not to mention my marital status with two children) is equally laughable.

So I don't know if I feel old, wise, or just confused. I know my friends who are in their 30s and 40s are laughing at me and could probably write a blog post like this about me, but I like to think I don't treat them any different from me based on their age, because I feel like they don't treat me any differently either. To many age is defining, to me it's a number. It's a number that keeps going up, but other then that, it's just a number. The stories that go between those numbers is what matters. The trips, the experiences, the love is what matters.

Maybe I just have a lot of experience... oh wow now I sound like a ...
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Tuesday, April 8, 2014

We really can't be friends if...

Over the last 31 years I've started to learn a few things about myself. I'm still a relatively insecure child at heart. I care passionately for my family and friends. I LOVE to sleep and be lazy. I'm not ashamed to eat spaghetti for breakfast, all to name a few.

One of the other things I've started to learn is what it takes to make a good friend to me. I put in that "to me" part because obviously the things I value are not valued by all... just my friends! So in case you were hoping you made the list (or hoping to point out why I should give up on our friendship) below will tell you if you should give me a call

1. You have to respect the fact that I'm VERY opinionated and it wouldn't hurt if you were too! 
      I'm a bible beating conservative if you want to put a title on it. I believe in saying "Yes Mame", praying before our meals, having my own gun, and WORKING for what I have. If you don't agree with me or at least respect my opinion, please don't call.

2. You  have to have a job
     Whether that's in the office or in the home with your children, you must have a job. Or trying to find one. NOT "trying" to find the perfect one for so long that you're on welfare now, I don't support that and I don't want to support you with my tax dollars. Get off your butt and get to Walmart and get a job until the dream comes true for you.

3. You have to have a sense of humor
     Do you know what the word sarcastic means? If not please stop reading and DO NOT call.

4. You have to like wine, or beer, or cocktails... or SOMETHING. 
     Okay I'm just going to put it out there, Jesus turned water into Wine... There I said it... glad we talked about that. No seriously our BBQ's are going to feel REALLY weird if you NEVER have ONE drink with me. I get if you're on a diet, pregnant, nursing, whatever, but come on... NEVER have ONE... unless it's medical, don't call. We can chat, but are we REALLY going to be close?

5. You  have to be okay with me praying and talking about God
    You like how this one is right after the wine don't you? So I'm not perfect, never have been and never will be. I put this here (after the wine) to make that point. But I love God and Jesus something fierce and I like to speak about what he's done and is doing in my life. If that makes you uncomfortable, I'll pray for you. You don't have to agree with me, just be okay with it.

6. I discipline my children, in front of people.
    I'm sorry you don't ever feel the need to tell your child No and I'm sorry that you don't want to embarrass your child by putting them in the corner in public. But if MY child does something that is not acceptable they will have a consequence and that will cause crying and you will have to listen to it. SO if that makes you uncomfortable when you call, stipulate No children because my kids are young and every other minute there's a timeout happening.

7. You have to be okay with cheap
    In case you didn't see the previous requirements where I'm talking about having children, I do and they along with their daycare and extracurricular activities suck the ever loving dollar out of my purse, so if you like to go to fancy dinners with your friends on the regular, think hitting up a concert, or Ballet is a normal outing for you, please don't call unless it's your birthday or mine. I don't have money for that. I would have to pay for a babysitter (because there's no timeouts at the Ballet), most likely buy suitable clothing (t-shirts and work clothes don't apply), and then still shell out money for food, drinks, entertainment... I don't have money for that... Just come over with a bottle of wine (see #4) and something to throw on the grill (see #8) and lets put our feet up and chat.

8. I eat meat
    More importantly I eat meat that my husband KILLED! OH YEA! I'm not saying that venison has to be your cup of tea, but don't try to convince me why killing Bambi is tragic or if you're a full out vegetarian, oh lord, I really don't know how I would approach that... I mean as long as you're okay with blood dripping down my chin, because everyone knows a good steak should be rare, then we can remain friends.

9. DO NOT EVER make someone else feel uncomfortable in my house
    I'm so over the neighborhood clicks, the high school drama that some adults never grow out of. Might as well  be on an episode of Mean Girls. At least in the South if we don't like you we're nice to your face. If I have to go out one more time and be ignored or watch someone else be ignored because you are too rude to at least be cordial while our children play together I swear I might get redneck up in here!

So see it's not hard to be my friend. You want me to be tolerant, I ask for the same in return~

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